Love comes like a strong breeze and carries away two lovers to unknown dimensions. Lovers go through an experience peak and then need to settle down. In the process, they start feeling bored, craving the same peak yet again and again. When they don”t reach it, they feel frustrated and fall into the ditch of misery.
Peaks in love are experienced when lovers open their wings to fly high into the sky together. There”s a whole sky of freedom and togetherness that they feel in each other”s company. But the moment they start clinging to each other and suppress freedom, love falls into an abysmal valley of misery. Then they wonder what happened to their love! The clinging starts clipping their wings, killing their love.
True love is unconditional, and based on an individual”s freedom. Two persons can be very loving together. The more loving they are, the lower the possibility of any relationship. The more loving they are, the greater the freedom between them. The more loving they are, the thinner the prospect of any demand, domination, expectation. Naturally then, there is no question of frustration.
Remember this: Don”t have any expectations. Love because love is your own inner growth. When you love, you call your spring of growth closer. Your love will help you grow towards more light, more truth, more freedom. Love but don”t ever create a relationship!
A relationship is a part of the business world. A slight change in the situation, and it evaporates. It has no solidity. If love comes spontaneously, suddenly, like a fountain, asking for nothing in return, then it is one of the greatest treasures. Love is a fire. The purer it is, the better it burns all riddles, all problems. But love as a relationship creates problems, riddled with all sorts of undesirable things.
Remember this: Love is capable of destroying everything else, just don”t let it become a relationship. If you do, love will disappear and in its place will come politics and manipulation. Then, your problems will only increase.
Osho says: “I am against all kinds of relationships. For example, I don”t like the word “friendship” but I love the word “friendliness”. Friendliness is a quality within you; friendship becomes a burdensome relationship.”
Osho elaborates: “Friendship is a relationship. You can be in that relationship with a few people. Friendliness is a quality, not a relationship. It has nothing to do with anybody else. It is basically your inner quality. You can be friendly with many, many people. You can be friendly even when you are alone. You cannot be in friendship when you are alone-the other is needed-but friendliness is a kind of fragrance. A flower blooms; nobody passes by, yet it is fragrant. It matters not whether anyone comes to know of it; being fragrant is its quality.”
good post yaar...really good post....it gave me about relationship and quality. not having expectations is a good line and true.
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