Why are young people quick to feel anger?
Generally, we find a youngster who is disturbed is also angry. He is angry with life. He has the passion to achieve, but lacks direction. He is frustrated at others' success. He wonders what is missing in him. In such a state, he finds his energy drained. In his angry state, he is not able to enjoy life.
Oscar Wilde said: "Oh youth, what a pity it is wasted on the young." When one is youthful one has the energy but less maturity; and when one is old one has the maturity and experience, but lack youthful energy. To be able to have both youthful energy and maturity, is a challenge faced by the young people of today.
To make this happen one needs a healthy attitude.Attitude creates altitude.
What should be one's attitude?
Apply the ABC technique:
A is for attitude, open and explorative;
B is for having a belief which is powerful and not limiting and
C is to bring in caring energy in whatever we do.
There are two aspects to youth, the physical and the psychological. Physically, a person can be young, but psychologically, if he is not open with a positive belief and without a caring energy, he is old. This distinction is a must for one's growth.
What should be the vision of the youth?
The vision of the youth should be to be an outer winner and an inner winner. Being an outer winner gives you success and being an inner winner gives you satisfaction. To bring in success and satisfaction in your life is the greatest challenge. To get what you like is being an outer winner. One should have the freedom to choose what he likes.
The desire to reach a goal is your freedom. Achieving this goal is being an outer winner. You should know howto maximise performance, you should know how to be a team player, you should have negotiating skills and you should know how to delegate and be a leader. You should be a leader and a follower. You should walk your talk and talk your walk.
Talk to yourself and say that you will be an outer and inner winner.
Talk to yourself and say that you are always going to be young, mentally.
Actions are an expression of one's thoughts and thoughts are an expression of one's belief system. To change one's actions, it is necessary to change one's thoughts and to change one's thoughts, one mustchange one's belief. The source of one's actions is belief. If you have a limiting belief, then your life will be limiting; if you have a powerful belief, then your life will be powerful.
All successful people achieved success because they consistently held a positive belief, which is not a mere thought but something more than a thought.
How else can one change one's belief system?
Belief is nothing but a sense of certainty. It can be a negative certainty or a positive certainty; either way it is a sense of certainty. If it is a negative belief, create a doubt in that certainty and then you will find you have destroyed the sense of negative certainty.
If a person says that he cannot be successful since he is not a graduate, then he believes that only graduates can be successful. Create a doubt by giving an example that Bill Gates is not a graduate but is still successful. In this way, you break his certainty by creating a doubt.
Every great achievement initially appeared impossible.
Whenever a negative belief comes, kick it off like you kick a ball towards the goal. When you get a negative belief, see it like a ball and push it off to the goal. Your goal should be being both successful and satisfied. Keep this thought always and do not allow the opponents to shake you.
(The Times Of India,8 Feb 2009, SATSANG: SWAMI SUKHABODHANANDA)
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