Showing posts with label LIFE. Show all posts
Showing posts with label LIFE. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Always be helpful


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Always be helpful ~ What goes around comes around ~ Inspirational Story
One day a man saw an old lady, stranded on the side of the road, but even in the dim light of day, he could see she needed help. So he pulled up in front of her Mercedes and got out. His Pontiac was still sputtering when he approached her.
Even with the smile on his face, she was worried. No one had stopped to help for the last hour or so. Was he going to hurt her? He didn’t look safe; he looked poor and hungry. He could see that she was frightened, standing out there in the cold. He knew how she felt. It was those chills which only fear can put in you. He said, “I’m here to help you, ma’am. Why don’t you wait in the car where it’s warm? By the way, my name is Bryan Anderson.”
Well, all she had was a flat tire, but for an old lady, that was bad enough. Bryan crawled under the car looking for a place to put the jack, skinning his knuckles a time or two. Soon he was able to change the tire. But he had to get dirty and his hands hurt.
As he was tightening up the lug nuts, she rolled down the window and began to talk to him. She told him that she was from St. Louis and was only just passing through. She couldn’t thank him enough for coming to her aid.

Bryan just smiled as he closed her trunk. The lady asked how much she owed him. Any amount would have been all right with her. She already imagined all the awful things that could have happened had he not stopped. Bryan never thought twice about being paid. This was not a job to him. This was helping someone in need, and God knows there were plenty, who had given him a hand in the past. He had lived his whole life that way, and it never occurred to him to act any other way.
He told her that if she really wanted to pay him back, the next time she saw someone who needed help, she could give that person the assistance they needed, and Bryan added, “And think of me.”
He waited until she started her car and drove off. It had been a cold and depressing day, but he felt good as he headed for home, disappearing into the twilight.

A few miles down the road the lady saw a small cafe. She went in to grab a bite to eat, and take the chill off before she made the last leg of her trip home. It was a dingy looking restaurant. Outside were two old gas pumps. The whole scene was unfamiliar to her. The waitress came over and brought a clean towel to wipe her wet hair. She had a sweet smile, one that even being on her feet for the whole day couldn’t erase. The lady noticed the waitress was nearly eight months pregnant, but she never let the strain and aches change her attitude. The old lady wondered how someone who had so little could be so giving to a stranger. Then she remembered Bryan.
After the lady finished her meal, she paid with a hundred dollar bill. The waitress quickly went to get change for her hundred dollar bill, but the old lady had slipped right out the door. She was gone by the time the waitress came back. The waitress wondered where the lady could be. Then she noticed something written on the napkin.
There were tears in her eyes when she read what the lady wrote: “You don’t owe me anything. I have been there too. Somebody once helped me out, the way I’m helping you. If you really want to pay me back, here is what you do: Do not let this chain of love end with you.”
Under the napkin were four more $100 bills.

Well, there were tables to clear, sugar bowls to fill, and people to serve, but the waitress made it through another day. That night when she got home from work and climbed into bed, she was thinking about the money and what the lady had written. How could the lady have known how much she and her husband needed it? With the baby due next month, it was going to be hard….
She knew how worried her husband was, and as he lay sleeping next to her, she gave him a soft kiss and whispered soft and low, “Everything’s going to be all right. I love you, Bryan Anderson.”

There is an old saying “What goes around comes around.”

Friday, July 19, 2013

DO WE PERFORM OUR DUTY TO OUR PARENT?

The parents nowadays are quite worried about the behavioral changes in their children due to several socio-economical reasons. The gap between parents and the younger generations, is increasing day by day due to which the family bonding is getting weaker and weaker. They have forgotten the countless efforts and sacrifices made by their parents throughout their lives.

                                        DO WE PERFORM OUR DUTY TO OUR PARENT?

Since  birth we ate the  food provided by them -  many lakhs of times!!! Our  household expenses,  maintenance, educational needs,  daily coaching etc., was attended by them free of cost.  All our requirements  under the sky, from childhood till we started earning our own income, was provided by them at their cost, despite their financial conditions and ability,  until we became  independent  to enjoy and survive in this world. The services of our parents cannot be listed as it will run to volumes.  All that we can do in return is  our moral and spiritual responsibility to take care of them now when they are helpless

  1. Give them enough money understanding their requirements without their indicating  same.
  2. Share time with them to laugh and smile.
  3. Be polite and don't try to control their actions, but politely give your views slowly and softly.
  4. While walking keep pace with them as due to age, they may be slow and  stay behind them. Give them respect.
  5. Look after  their needs,  just  asking   “shall I bring water, some biscuits, a fruit  etc.,? Should i bring tea for you? Are you hungry, baba” etc
  6. Observe their health condition closely and take  them for periodical check ups. Sensitive parents will not ask you to do this and that.
  7. Check whether they take their medicines timely and remind, don't talk about the cost of the medicine and value!!
  8. Take them out where they would like to go, and organize it to their satisfaction.
  9. Go from time to time to public places, parks, restaurants of their choice etc.,
  10. Respect their preferences and  likes. Dont force your views and preferences.]
  11. They don't demand respect, they deserve it
  12. When  elders arrive or depart, open the door with respect.
  13. Go shopping and watch they select and don't comment on their choices.. Your choices certainly will differ with theirs and you cannot thrust it on theirs.
  14. celebrate their birthdays and wedding days with some surprise gifts observing their needs and preferences.
  15. Daily wish them before you go out and return home visiting them in their rooms.
  16. Explain your children the importance of the grand parents and cultivate the habit so that you will be respected when they become grown up!!!
  17. When you come back to home, visit them first in their room.
  18. Dont criticise their friends and their manners, dresses etc., and talk ill of them.  They have not come to see you,or care for your views,  which please remember. 
  19. In any matter of discussions where the views of yours and the parents  differ try to follow their views as much as possible finding a compromising solution without hurting  feelings. Remember their sacrifices and time,  and you owe them immeasurably which they never asked for. Going their way with your supporting ideas would be ideal patiently and politely.
  20. Disposal of old parents to old age homes, and separate care homes is a crime unpardonable.   Remember their hardship and difficulties in bringing you up and putting up with your tantrums and obstinacy  mindfully. Dont be ignorant..
  21. At the dinner table, first serve food to them and then to others


A word to parents also  –  Please for heaven’s sake don't mention how much troubles and sufferings you had in bringing up your children in front of them or talk about the money you spent on their studies and maintenance etc.  This is not settlement of account matter.  Love begets love which please  remember and don't degrade yourself. You should not demand respect but command it.

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Worth reading A Simple Upedesh..!

A Simple Upedesh..!
A Young Man Called Rama Swami Died An Untimely Death.
His Parents, Wife And Nine Year Old Son Were Crying Bitterly Sitting Next To His Dead Body.
They All Happened To Be Disciples Of A Holy Man Whom They Called ‘Maharaj Ji’. When Maharaj Ji Learnt That Rama Swami Had Died, He Came To Visit The Family.
He Entered The House And Found The Family Wailing Inconsolably.
Seeing Maharaj Ji, The Wife Started Crying Even Louder. She Sobbed Saying, “Maharaj Ji, He Has Died Too Early, He Was So Young…
Oh! I Would Do Anything To Make Him Alive Again. What Will Happen To Our Son? I’m so Helpless and Miserable.”
Maharaj Ji Tried To Pacify The Crying Lady And The Old Parents,
But The Loss Was Too Much For Them To Come To Terms With So Easily.
Eventually, Maharaj Ji Said, “Alright, Get Me A Glass Of Water.”
Maharaj Ji Sat Near The Dead Body And Put The Glass Next To It.
He Said, “Now, Who Ever Wants That Rama Swami Should Become Alive Again May Drink This Water.
Rama Swami Shall Come Back To Life, But The Person Who Drinks The Water Shall Die Instead!”
Silence..!
Come, Did You Not Say That Rama Swami Was The Sole Bread Winner Of The Family? Who Would die Instead Of Him?
It Is A Case Of Fair Exchange, Isn’t It?”
The Wife Looked At The Old Mother And The Old Mother Looked At The Wife. The Old Father Looked At Rama Swami’s Son.
But No One Came Forward…
Then Maharaj Ji Said To The Old Father, “Babuji, Wouldn’t You Give Your Life For Your Son?”
The Old Man Said, “Well, I Have My Responsibility Towards My Wife. If I Die Who Will Look After Her? I Cannot Offer My Life To You.”
Maharaj Ji Looked Questioningly At The Old Woman And Said, “Amma?”
Amma Said, “My Daughter Is Due To Deliver Her First Baby. She Will Be Coming To Stay For A Month. If I Die Who Will Look After Her And The Newborn. Why Don’t You Ask Rama Swami’s Wife?
Maharaj Ji Smiled And Looked At The Young Widow.
She Widened Her Tear Filled Eyes And Said, “Maharaj Ji, I Need To Live For My Son…If I Die, Who Will Look After Him? He Needs Me.
Please Don’t Ask Me To Do This Sacrifice.
Maharaj Ji Asked The son, “Well Little Boy, Would You Like To Give Your Life For Your Father?”
Before The Boy Could Say Anything, His Mother Pulled Him To Her Breast And Said,..Maharaj Ji, Are You insane?..
My Son Is Only Nine. He Has Not Yet Lived His Life. How Could You Even Think Or Suggest Such A Thing?”
Maharaj Ji Said, “Well It Seems, That All Of You Are Very Much Needed For The Things You Need To Do In This World… It Seems Rama Swami Was The Only One That Could Be Spared…
That Is Why God Chose To Take Him Away.
So Shall We Now Proceed With His Last Rites? It’s Getting Late. Having Said That, Maharaj Ji Got Up And Left.
God’s Plan Is Impeccable.
Sometimes Man Is Unable To Understand God’s Design.
The Time Of Entry And Exit For Each One Of Us, Is In God’s Hands.
It Is His Prerogative Alone To Pluck The Flower He Wishes To.
It Is Nobody’s Prerogative To Question His Will.
In The Words Of Dada, “We Tend A Plant Only When The leaves Are Green; When They Become Dry And The Plant Becomes A Life-Less Stick, We Stop Loving It.
Love Lasts As Long As Life Exists The Rest Is Only Memories Of Happy Times..!

Saturday, September 15, 2012

Be Happy- Right NOW….…